Approximately 11 percent of children 4-17 years of age (6.4 million) have been diagnosed with ADHD as of 2011. – Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)
What could cause parents so much stress, exhaustion and pain to want to abandon their children?
Children are not merchandise. They are imperfect human beings just like us.
Do our kiddos make us angry? Can they stir up our emotions and, at times, bring out our own imperfections?
But 99.9 percent of us would not even consider going as far as the parents Tina Traster refers to in “Couple wants to void adoption of ‘mentally ill’ Russian Orphans.’
There’s a new catalyst for change in town.
If you want to change a life or make a difference, Nick Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn show you how in their compelling book, A Path Appears. One of the most important takeaways from the book involves making a crucial and necessary mind shift – thinking proactively. Investing before a child is born in order to give them a better shot at life. Urging parents, “Cuddle Your Kid!” Intervening in the home and closing the word gap.
This thinking would undoubtedly save us money and would give children more opportunity to reach their greatest potential.
Whether a child ends up in university or prison should not depend to a significant extent on birth circumstances; we can do better than that. If a smarter social policy is needed to create opportunity, then let’s help build it. – A Path Appears
Every child deserves the best possible start in life.
Unfortunately, not every boy and girl gets it.
Project Bond’s mission is to help these children thrive.
Take Katia, for example. She is one of 152,350 children internationally adopted by parents like you over the past decade. After living in an orphanage for her first few years of life, she came to the United States not knowing English or what having a parent even means.
Or Ben. Similar to the other 397,121 kids in foster care, he has been bounced around from one foster home to another. ADHD and Oppositional Defiant Disorder are two of the terms that professionals use to describe him now.
What do Katia and Ben have in common? They’ve both experienced early separation from a parent, childhood trauma, and instability in relationships. They both have been greatly impacted by their experience.
Luckily, they have you.
Thousands of adoptive parents like you have opened their homes and their hearts to children like Katia and Ben. As a result, these children have had the opportunity to heal emotional trauma, have caring parents, a loving family, and a powerful second start in life.
We can’t control the past, but the future is in our hands.
No matter how young a child is, research shows that early separations from a parent, as well as adverse childhood experiences, have both a developmental and an emotional effect. These experiences tend to be “hardwired” into the brain and influence the perspective these children take on the world.
The good news? You have the opportunity to help your child heal make advances from his or her past towards a bright future.
Children who have been adopted have unique needs.
Due to experiences in their past, these kids cannot always be approached in the same way as others. Ineffective treatment, misunderstandings and misdiagnosis are rampant among professionals without the proper knowledge working with adoptive families. And, at the end of the day, it is the children and their families who suffer the repercussions – taking steps backwards instead of forwards.
Adoptive families are in need of support.
We reached out to parents just like you in order to determine how to best meet your needs. Turns out, if you’re an adoptive family having some challenges – you’re not alone.
In the children of our sample: 46% were diagnosed with ADHD, 29% with anxiety, 25% with Oppositional Defiant Disorder, 25% with PTSD, and 25% had a Learning Disorder. Of the parents who stated they could use more information to help their children: most (81%) were interested in parenting strategies and 69% were interested in self-care/stress management. Almost half (44%) stated they would like professional development for their team members (i.e. teachers, counselors, case managers) and 38% wanted more information on treatment options.
Parents told us:
We have RARELY gotten the help our children desperately need. It’s hard to watch someone you love so much go downhill so quickly. [We] do not believe in ‘standard behavioral techniques.’ We could probably use some peer support for this as many of our friends with kids think we’re crazy. Everything feels like a battle to try to get additional support. [For example,] to get school to do things differently so his anxiety is reduced.
This is why.
Project Bond was founded to ensure adoptive families and their children get the support and resources necessary in order to lead fulfilling lives.
We’ve revamped our offerings and website for this reason. Project Bond is a place adoptive families can turn to. Our new services encompass both home and school environments by focusing on the past and present in order to build future success.
We are beyond excited to announce our parenting class, Parenting from the Inside Out Workshop, will be starting in November. Check out the link for more information. We have experienced Educational Advocates available to help you get your child the support he needs in school. On our blog, we will disperse helpful information weekly to help and advocate for families, like yours.
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In the meantime, we’d love to hear from you. Let us know what you’re biggest challenge has been in the comments below, like us on Facebook, and explore our site. We look forward to getting to know you!
It’s been a busy few weeks here and there’s no sign of things slowing down!
A few updates:
Barbara and I are going to be blogging every other Thursday for the foreseeable future while we shift our focus.
The newsletter will be going out once a month to keep you posted on the latest and greatest Project Bond approved tips and resources.
We are currently conducting a survey for adoptive families to ensure our new services will best meet their needs. Feel free to share with families in your life! [Please note, our survey is now closed. Thanks for responding!]
We promise to keep you posted as Project Bond continues to evolve and feel free to reach out with questions or just to say “hello!”