For many families, life with their child involves meetings and appointments with a slew of professionals. Your son may have a therapist, psychiatrist, case manager, and respite worker. Or your daughter may have occupational and physical therapy, as well as a neurologist. These people are in the position to be your lifeline, your support. Those you can turn to during crisis and celebrate successes with.
Are they on board?
We write and speak about the unique, attachment-centered approach that is most effective for children who have been adopted and are facing challenges. Many parents are just being introduced to these concepts when they come to us, which is no fault of their own.
Many professionals are not familiar with this approach.
That’s right, parents. If this is the case, you’re going to have to educate yourselves and bring that information back to them. We know, it doesn’t make sense. And we know, this can be incredibly frustrating. But sometimes, professionals are using the wrong tool for the job. For a recap of approaches that famously do not work with our kiddos, check out this post (and share it as needed with your child’s team members). Some of the strategies listed may surprise you, but trust us – they are not effective or beneficial. In fact, most will end up increasing the very behaviors you’re trying so desperately to change.
Remember, you are the leader of your child’s team. You know him best. You’re the one who goes home with him and lies awake at night worrying. If something doesn’t feel right, speak up. Request a team meeting. Seek out an educational advocate. You and your family deserve to have a team of professionals who are supporting your progress and future success.